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is the art of asking the beautiful
question, of ourselves, of our world or of one another, in fiercely
difficult and un-beautiful moments. Solace is what we must look for when
the mind cannot bear the pain, the loss or the suffering that
eventually touches every life and every endeavor; when longing does not
come to fruition in a form we can recognize, when people we know and
love disappear, when hope must take a different form than the one we
have shaped for it.
Solace is the beautiful, imaginative
home we make where disappointment can go to be rehabilitated. When life
does not in any way add up, we must turn to the part of us that has
never wanted a life of simple calculation. Solace is found in allowing
the body’s innate wisdom to come to the fore, the part of us that
already knows it is mortal and must take its leave like everything else,
and leading us, when the mind cannot bear what it is seeing or hearing,
to the birdsong in the tree above our heads, even as we are being told
of death, each note an essence of morning and mourning; of the current
of a life moving on, but somehow, also, and most beautifully, carrying,
bearing, and even celebrating the life we have just lost. A life we
could not see or appreciate until it was taken from us. To be consoled
is to be invited onto the terrible ground of beauty upon which our
inevitable disappearance stands, to a voice that does not soothe
falsely, but touches the epicenter of our pain or articulates the
essence of our loss, and then emancipates us into both life and death as
an equal birthright.
Solace is not an evasion, nor a cure
for our suffering, nor a made up state of mind. Solace is a direct
seeing and participation; a celebration of the beautiful coming and
going, appearance and disappearance of which we have always been a part.
Solace is not meant to be an answer, but an invitation, through the
door of pain and difficulty, the depth of suffering and simultaneous
beauty in the world that the strategic mind by itself cannot grasp nor
make sense of.
To look for solace is to learn to ask
fiercer and more exquisitely pointed questions, questions that reshape
our identities and our bodies and our relation to others. Standing in
loss but not overwhelmed by it, we become useful and generous and
compassionate and even amusing companions for others. But solace also
asks us very direct and forceful questions. Firstly, how will you bear
the inevitable that is coming to you? And how will you endure it through
the years? And above all, how will you shape a life equal to and as
beautiful and as astonishing as a world that can birth you, bring you
into the light and then just as you are beginning to understand it, take
you away?
an invitation, not an answer......
Conversational Leadership
What is the courageous conversation we are not having....
There is a faith in loving fiercely
the one who is rightfully yours
especially if you have
waited years and especially
if part of you never believed
you could deserve this
loved and beckoning hand
held out to you this way.
I am thinking of faith now
and the testaments of loneliness
and what we feel we are
worthy of in this world.
Years ago in the Hebrides
I remember an old man
who walked every morning
on the grey stones
to the shore of the baying seals who would press his hat
to his chest in the blustering
salt wind and say his prayer
to the turbulent Jesus
hidden in the water,
and I think of the story
of the storm and everyone
waking and seeing
the distant
yet familiar figure
far across the water
calling to them
and how we are all
preparing for that
abrupt waking,
and that calling,
and that moment
we have to say yes,
except it will
not come so grandly
so Biblically
but more subtly
and intimately in the face
of the one you know
you have to love.
So that when we finally step out of the boat
toward them, we find
everything holds
us, and everything confirms
our courage, and if you wanted
to drown you could,
but you don’t because finally
after all this struggle
and all the years
you don’t want to any more
you’ve simply had enough
of drowning
and you want to live and you
want to love and you will
walk across any territory
and any darkness
however fluid and however
dangerous to take the
one hand you know
belongs in yours.
David Whyte (House of Belonging)
I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of
so they can see that it's not the answer.
- Jim Carrey